Secondly I am obsessed with details that I have never noticed at any of my friends’ weddings.
Most things that we should have organised by now are done, but there is this pressure and fear that the day will not be perfect. Though I feel it more so than Josh, even he is showing signs of unrealistic worry. He seems disgruntled that he will not be able to predict the weather and I am scared that I will gain 200 grams and my dress will be too tight.
The problem that I am facing at the moment is that my judgement is skewed and I go through days where nothing looks right. I must admit they are the days where I have had 3 hours sleep if I am lucky because there is an endless ‘to do’ list going through my head. Let it be a warning to you that this is a bad day to try on your dress, have a hair trial or attempt to do your own makeup.
Unfortunately the long to do list is not a figment of my imagination. There are just so many details that need attending to. Among the endless hair and makeup trials that make me wish that I wasn’t so vain, there is music to choose, a menu to finalise, a florist to organise, vows to decide on and a running sheet to write for the day.
In between finding shoes for flowergirls and meeting the band we have had to chase up RSVPs. Surprisingly only 50 out of the 194 that were invited replied before the RSVP date, so just as well that I scheduled a day off to sort this out. To cut waste and save a little on costs we asked guests to pre-order their meals, where they can choose from salmon, lamb or chicken for their main meal. So we have had to double check the guests’ meal choices too. My to do list also includes a seating chart, finding bridesmaids’ accessories and countless beauty appointments that I usually look forward to, but now find to be a chore.
Just when I thought I would spontaneously combust, Josh and I took a trip to our venue to finalise the theming and menu. We are having the wedding at Glen Albyn Estate in Taroona and it is safe to say that I have fallen in love with our coordinator Bernadette Woods, as she seems to take all my worries away. It may have something to do with the romance of the venue, the fact that everything is how I want it, or due to my wine glass never being empty — but it seems to be the only time that I can breathe and enjoy being almost married.
If you don’t have a wedding planner I would highly recommend one as there are only so many hours in a day and from time to time you will need to talk to someone that knows what they are doing and can help you relax.
With the wedding in just two weeks and a year of planning behind me, I feel as though I have learnt a thing or two. Firstly, it’s not a fun thing to do with your girlfriends, it’s a full time job on top of your full time job. And it’s not just cakes you have to taste, you need to examine hundreds of quotes because weddings simply cost more than you expect, and so you need to cut cost corners where you can. My advice is to start early and do a little at a time to save you from having a panic attack later. Also get your fiancé involved because wedding planning is not a one-person job!
I am going to go and get married now, so enjoy the sneak peak of my venue and I promise a full report of the wedding sometime in April when I have relaxed after my honeymoon!
Hope you can keep your own stress levels down!