Admit it. You’ve been planning how your wedding day will play out since you were a little girl.
But while weddings are often thought of as the female preserve, ultimately your wedding is a celebration of and for both of you, so it makes sense for it to reflect each of your wishes and personalities.
With this is mind Bride Tasmania has put together five ways to help you plan your wedding together, with as little stress as possible and more importantly, without World War III ensuing!
Ask your groom-to-be what he wants
Before you embark down the planning path you need to sit down as a couple and figure out exactly how you both envisage your wedding day panning out.
Ask your groom-to-be what kind of wedding he has in mind from the outset. Is there anything in particular that would make it really special for him? Does he have any objections to elements you would like to incorporate? And ultimately, just how involved does he want to be in the planning?
Involve him in the tasks he’s interested in
Since this is an event that celebrates who you are as a couple, your wedding should be about both of you.
Is there anything your guy is really passionate about? Is he a music snob, foodie, car buff, writer, expert traveller? If so, assign tasks accordingly.
Let him plan the ceremony music or pick out the DJ, select the food, arrange the getaway car, write your vows or coordinate the honeymoon.
Set aside “wedding time”
Designate a day or night for “wedding time” instead of bombarding him all at once or at random times. Or get the wedding party together for a monthly wedding session and make a fun night of it.
Learn to compromise
It really should go without saying, but you need to be prepared for a bit of give and take.
Plus it’s important to not go overboard. Learn to avoid stressing about your wedding every minute of the day and remember to take the time to enjoy each other. The key is to communicate with your soon-to-be spouse and to remember that you’re a team now.
Remember the fun stuff
Wedding planning is stressful – there’s no getting around it. That can put a strain on your relationship and make it hard to include your man in the planning.
If one aspect of planning is getting too much, then concentrate on something fun for a while, such as the honeymoon.