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There are many common reasons that couples have for choosing weekday weddings.
Some find that the venue they’ve had their hearts set on is booked for months or years in advance on Saturdays, but is available on a weekday.
A woman by the name of Emily Cline, 22, got married on a Tuesday in May, 2017. Her husband, Jordan, is in the U.S. Army, and he was leaving for training that summer. The couple wanted to marry before he left. Given the venue they wanted and the timing, they opted for a weekday wedding. Much to their surprise, the vendors they had in mind were all available, and the reception centre they wanted was available, and it was about half the price of what it was on a weekend.
Other couples may be attached to a particular wedding date. Mary Nisi, the owner of a DJ company in Chicago, has seen a rise in the number of weekday weddings she and her colleagues have performed for over the past few years. A number of those couples, she recalls, chose the day of the wedding because they wanted a particular date for their future wedding anniversaries. (Alternatively, some may also choose to have their wedding on the date of their initial courtship anniversary.) Certain types of couples also love getting married on purposefully eventful days, like Halloween. Vendors have claimed that whenever there’s a Friday the 13th, those are usually quite common days to choose too.
Of course, one of the main reasons people get married on weekdays is so they can cut down the cost of the event. Weddings which take place on a Saturday generally last longer than weddings which take place Monday through Thursday. This occurs because festivities often have to be tailored to suit guests schedules (and perhaps even the new spouses) so they can get to sleep and make it to work or school the next morning. If the event is shorter, any extra non-wedding services that charge by the hour will naturally be cheaper. Plus, wedding venues and vendors (such as photographers, DJs, caterers, florists, planners, and stylists) often charge less for their services on non-peak wedding days. For many vendors, weekday work operates sort of like “bonus” work—extra money that can be made at off-peak times.
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We know you’ve been waiting for it… the moment where we tell you that there are in fact a few downsides to getting married on a weekday. BUT, there is only one.
Many guests who receive an invitation to a week-day wedding may feel unsettled, or even annoyed, because week-day weddings create issues – like having to try and get time off work or stay up late with the kids to attend. Though many people don’t work 9 – 5, Monday through Friday, the marrying couple would still have to expect a smaller guest attendance.
On the flip side, a low RSVP response can be a delight for some engaged couples, for the fact it narrows down the guest list to just the people who are close to the couple (the ones who would be willing to take time off from work or travel during the week). It would be a good way to filter out some people from your ever-growing list.
The increase of week-day weddings is just part of a larger trend – traditional weddings are being replaced by weddings based on what couples find meaningful or special. This might come through in couples’ choices of reception food – for example, a couple may have had their first date at an amazing Chinese restaurant, so for their main course, they serve Chinese, or a couple may go to Mexico every year, so they decide on a taco truck for their reception.
In the past five or ten years, couples have really moved towards this idea of doing something that represents their relationship. For example, a group of friends may love getting together on Thursday nights, so one of them decides to throw their wedding on a Thursday night because it’s a personal tradition. Another example, a couple may not want a wedding cake because the two simply don’t have a sweet spot for cake and prefer other sweets.
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Some vendors can be a little thrown off by your request to have a wedding on a weekday. They most likely have their system all set in stone, and their bookings may all be built on a routine – but don’t let that stop you from asking for a weekday. Throw them a curve-ball, the vendors may actually be up for a challenge!
Let’s face it, weddings on weekends are a rather cookie-cutter affair. – always the same, and shaped perfectly, but having your wedding on a Friday night would be more like having an end-of-the-week party, and those parties are the ones you remember. There’s no denying that traditions are being over-ridden by new methods.